We have all experienced grief at some point in our lives, whether it was as a result of a love breakup, the loss of a job, or the death of a loved one. Some of these experiences can be very painful, but without a doubt, the hardest is when a loved one dies.
We are not prepared to receive death

As human beings, we understand that our time in this world is limited, that we are transient, and that our physical bodies have an expiration date.

We live in a culture where we are not prepared to receive death or face it up close, since our minds immediately associate the word “death” with a tragedy, with something very bad, and from this point, they manage to provoke many changes in our behavior, especially when we lose a loved one with whom we had a very special attachment, managing to flourish endless emotions and confused thoughts, such as anger, for example, because they never prepared us to “let go” of what we think belongs to us, thinking we could not continue to be happy in this world with our loss.

Understanding Grief and Loss: Coping with the Death of a Loved One

We understand that each person processes and faces their grief in a particular way, but to what extent is this suffering normal? The death of a loved one is undoubtedly a very painful process that we will all go through or have already gone through at some point. The more intense and deep our love and dependence on that person, the more the loss will hurt us.

The loss of any object of attachment causes grief, and its intensity varies greatly according to the degree of emotional bonding with that object. Grief is often associated with death, but we know that losses can also be caused by a variety of other experiences, such as a breakup, job loss, or moving to a new location.

When grief is manifested by the death of a loved one, the person may be trapped in a state of anger that cannot be assuaged by anything. It is at this moment that the person realizes the death of their loved one but may not accept it, leading to feelings of resentment, anger, or a sense of life’s unfairness.

Anger is a reaction to loss, and trying to find an explanation for what happened only fuels it. We always have to keep in mind that anger and rage transform us into beings that we are not. These emotions then manifest in the body, and can make you sick.

Embracing Pain to Find Happiness: The Power of Acceptance and Moving Forward.

Some people feel that their life no longer has meaning and that they will never have a chance to be happy again. But there is no light without darkness. To understand pain, we must embrace it, feel it, and finally accept it in order to move on.

There is no grief that can heal without pain. We must not fear it, because without pain, we would not understand what happiness truly is.

Remember that what you believe about yourself is who you are. If you believe that there is no hope, then that is what you will experience. It’s like entering a tunnel, you know that on the other side is the exit, so you have to go through it.

Walking the path of pain is not easy, but our human nature does not allow us to avoid it. Many times we deny our pain, looking for ways to avoid it and remain floating in a state of numbness.

But clinging to our pain and refusing to move forward are just defense mechanisms that trap us and prevent us from adapting to a new reality and moving on with our lives. Only by accepting this new reality can we grieve on an emotional level.

Coping with Grief and Loss: Understanding the Emotional Healing Process.

Facing the new reality and accepting it is the main weapon to combat suffering. The way in which each person expresses and feels their grief is very personal and should not be judged. These feelings can always be shared with a professional who can guide us and help us deal with stress, anxiety, and all the emotions that are triggered so we can find meaning in life again.

It is impossible to live without experiencing pain, but that does not mean that we have to experience it as suffering. Some types of suffering can be avoided, while others cannot; we have to accept them.

Death is a painful wound. The emotional wounds that occur in losses are similar to physical wounds; they cause pain, and like physical wounds, the time to heal depends on the care we give to the wound.

The emotions that arise before the death of a loved one are very well defined. If we accept that they occur naturally and if we also become aware of the actions that can block our process, in the end, our wound will heal very well.

Death Ends a Life Not a Relationship.

With patience and love, you have to give yourself permission to grieve. Playing the victim does not help at all. Through acceptance of finitude, we find the strength and courage to give life what it asks of us. Denying it is one reason why people have an empty, purposeless life, as if they had eternal life.

Going through grief allows us to transform the relationship we had with the person who is no longer physically there. We must understand that grief is a process that we must go through.

This process can lead us through a series of emotions such as anger, sadness, and denial, but it is necessary to experience it in order to reach acceptance. No matter what order I go through it, maybe I can accept it and live through all those emotions later. If I think that grief is a state, this will prevent me from moving on with my life and being happy.

Let’s learn to let go with love of that person who is no longer here, even if it hurts. It will free us. Not everything is as it seems, and what seems like an end really is not. It is simply a way of relating differently to that loved one who has left. Remember that nothing is lost, only transformed.

“In our grief process, we are moving into life from death, without denying the devastation that came before.” -Elisabeth Kübler-Ross.

 

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