By regularly practicing mindfulness towards it, it is possible to lose the fear of death.
We are in constant grief.

It is said that we are in constant grief because, at every moment, the NOW is continuously born, dies, and makes its way through the change. Preparing for death would have to be a requirement to live a full life during my stay in this world because it is a part of nature. We just don’t know how to face it, or rather, accept it.

As we already know, mindfulness in the West is taught as a practice to calm the mind, relieve suffering, and reduce stress, among other benefits. There are many variants and many contemporary forms. However, the original mindfulness comes from Buddhism.

Well, as I mentioned in past podcasts, mindfulness has the peculiarity that it can be practiced while doing anything. What it is about is that I know what I am doing consciously and attentively. From the practice of mindfulness and Buddhism, the subject of death is really important. When we talk about thanatology, especially in Buddhist philosophy, we are talking about the impermanence of our lives.

Life is Impermanent.

Everything we can see, touch, smell, eat, and feel is impermanent and changing all the time. When we talk about the impermanence of our life, we are talking about death. Most people don’t like to talk about any subject related to death due to the great amount of fear that this produces. That fear automatically avoids any subject related to it.

Buddhists understand that observing the fact of death itself helps us focus and prepare for it. The fact of constantly remembering and reflecting is that we seek to free ourselves from the fear of death to reach it without suffering.

What would be the difference between people who don’t want to touch the subject of death and those who constantly reflect on it?

Those people who do not want to touch the subject of death would be, for example, like those objects that we put in the palm of our hand and when we close it we do not see them, but we know that they are there and that eventually, even if I do not want to, I will see what I am holding in my hand. In this case, death, even if you don’t want to recognize it, is there.

On the other hand, people who reflect on the impermanence of their own lives are constantly familiarizing themselves with death, and the fact of becoming familiar makes us stop being afraid of it and thus be able to arrive calmly and peacefully at the moment when my soul detaches from my body. Instead of arriving terrified, fear is what would happen if we continued to ignore it. If I have it clear, I will be able to eliminate my fear of it.

The suffering of the fear that death produces is something that is present all the time in the present and can last a lifetime. For example, there are people who are afraid of spiders and others who are not.

Those who are familiar with spiders are not afraid of them, and that is precisely what is sought with the familiarization of impermanence. The fact of our own death is a mental matter. Becoming familiar with this helps us gradually eliminate from our minds that anguish with which many live their entire lives, leaving aside the possibility of living a full life.

We have a strong attachment to life, or rather to the physical body, to the material, because that is how we have been taught since childhood; we believe that life, or rather the physical body, lasts forever, and that attachment causes us to never want it to end; and we forget that everything is constantly changing.

But beware, when we talk about not getting attached, it does not mean that we do not take care of our lives. On the contrary, we must be aware of it by taking care of ourselves, loving ourselves, so as not to fight reality, because reality is impermanent.

Are you ready to let things go?

The lack of full attention makes us make many mistakes, and this has great consequences, such as suffering. When we arrive in this world, we arrive incarnated in a physical body thanks to the kindness of our parents, and on the day we leave this world, we will leave it here. Here we will leave this physical body and everything material that we have had during this short step. We’ll leave with nothing.

Ask yourself if you are ready to let things go. If the answer is no, then we still have a lot to learn. Anything can become an object of attachment, from a cell phone to a cup of coffee to a person.

We cling to it so much that we don’t let go because it causes us suffering. That is why attachment is useless, nor will it help us when it comes to transcending. We don’t know when, or how, or where it will happen, but if we were to die soon, would we be prepared for it? We are never ready.

Meditation helps us cultivate the mind to see death as a fearless part of life.

How can we cultivate mindfulness in the face of death?

There are three of the most important points that will help us summarize it:

1.- Death is certain and it will happen. That is a fact.

2.- The moment of death is uncertain. We do not know when it will happen.

3.- At the moment of death, nothing can help us more than our mental peace, our merits, and the experience that we have developed in the time that we have practiced, that we have reflected on this experience called life.

This merit and peace are what can help us at the moment of death. Spiritual life, the journey of awakening and making sense of our lives as we learn to love, is, in reality, both a matter of life and death. The fragility of life itself helps us to be fully awake in the present moment.

Life is like rain. Once it falls from the sky, there is nothing to stop it.

We are born, and from then on, we get closer to death. Life is short; it passes very quickly. Therefore, we must take advantage of the time while we can. Death is not something that happens at the end of our days; death is always present. It is a process that occurs continuously in nature and therefore also in us.

If we were aware of the impermanence of everything that exists, we would be effectively stimulating the practice of mindfulness since we would understand that the present moment is the only thing we have, and it is beautiful, and that it will not last forever, and we do not want it to pass us by.

Let’s learn to live every moment, to make decisions without pain, because every decision is made right. Death can teach us to live a full life.

“Death is nothing more than a detachment from the physical body, like a butterfly from its cocoon. It is about a transition to a higher state of consciousness where you will continue to perceive, understand, laugh, and be able to grow. ” Elizabeth Kubbler Ross

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