If you keep taking everything personally, you risk being offended at every turn.

There is a fundamental need in human beings to connect with the outside world, and our thoughts and behaviors often owe a great deal to society and the people around us. This is not necessarily negative; in fact, feeling part of a group and trusting our family and friends can be beneficial.

However, have you ever felt that someone’s words or actions affected you deeply? Taking things too personally can lead to conflicts with the world around us, especially with our self-esteem. If we feel offended every time someone says or does something that does not align with our personal history, we may set aside our own beliefs and way of being for the other person, automatically giving them the power to control us.

Not only would this impact our mental health, but we would also create an attachment that would take away our freedom to live and make us feel like victims. If you take everything personally, you lose your balance and your emotions become much more intense because your mind touches very sensitive fibers stored in your unconscious, causing reactions that many times you are even unaware of, resulting from something potentially insignificant but significant to you.

Be yourself

Each of us has stories or unhealed wounds, and our reactions are based on them. As a result, we must try to be a little more objective when receiving something that bothers us, analyze and assess the situation from the perspective of a spectator watching a play, not getting involved in the facts, and even more importantly, not analyzing it from the ego.

If we analyze it from the ego, we will only form our own conclusions based on what our ego dictates to us, and we risk being hurt. We will be unhappy if we get carried away by other people’s attitudes or words because we will always be trying to control something that we can’t because each person has a mental map that they follow.

If we say or do something that instantly reminded them of a bad experience, the other person will draw erroneous conclusions about us because of that situation that they have experienced. It’s not that they’re against you; it’s their own history, and you’re just a mirror reflecting something they haven’t resolved. We frequently interpret things as a provocation from others. Knowing how to interpret others’ words or reactions in our favor would take a lot of weight off our shoulders.

An interpretation made from the ego, from the unhealed wound, will always attack our own self-esteem. If what you receive hurts, it’s because you haven’t delved deep enough into yourself to know how to recognize what you are and what you aren’t, as well as to understand the other person’s motivations for those actions. Being yourself is the foundation of our freedom, so the key is to be yourself and not conform to what people want us to be.

We need to figure out what our triggers are.

In many cases, we are unaware of the reasons behind our reactions, which is why it is worth investigating any comment or situation that makes us uncomfortable to see if it corresponds to some deep aspect of our personality or some particular insecurity that is being triggered through a comment or attitude.

Once identified, it will be much easier to define its power over our minds. Not taking things personally is a whole process that involves a lot of introspection. When you feel good about yourself and understand your place in the universe, you will realize that nobody is perfect, not everything is your responsibility, and that you should not feel guilty if things don’t go as planned.

If you want to stop taking everything so personally, do not bring your past into your present. The situation that you experienced in the past has completed its cycle; you have already learned from it, and you must learn to let go. Remember that you are not always correct because if something goes wrong, we will feel guilty. You can be gentler and less demanding on yourself if you accept that not everything will always turn out the way you want it to.

Another thing to understand is that we will not always fit in everywhere and that not everyone will always like us. Accepting that this is no longer our responsibility will not affect who we are. As a result, we would have a strong bond with ourselves because we would know that the famous “what will they say about me” would have no weight or value for us.

Every one of us has the responsibility to choose how we relate to our surroundings and to refuse to take what is no longer useful to us. If the other person insults you, simply do not accept it. Do not add unnecessary weight to that suitcase you are carrying for the rest of your life. It is about lightening the load so that you can enjoy the trip freely and happily

Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering others is strength; mastering yourself is true power. – Lao Tzu.



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