If you want to be conscious and have control of your life, you must first recognize your complexes.

We all have complexes; understanding them is not easy, but it is essential to advance in life. Identifying our complexes allows us to comprehend ourselves better because we form our personalities based on them. In fact, many of our complexes are formed thanks to ideas or situations that have left us marked. Distorted self-perceptions that result from contrasting oneself with others, such as comparing oneself to societally imposed ideals of “beauty,” only lead to insecurity, a lack of faith in one’s own skills, and a loss of self-esteem.

On the other hand, the situations that have left us marked have formed some of our complexes. They have a connection to trauma. A threatening situation causes trauma, followed by intense feelings and emotions. As a result, any aroma, person, word, or other thing that we associate with the traumatic situation that we are experiencing will activate the defense mechanism that prepares us to react.  Many people have failed to overcome childhood complexes because they could not identify the source of their anxiety and anguish in the face of a specific event.

Most complexes are physical, but others, such as the inferiority complex or its opposite, superiority, have a fundamental psychological condition.

Complexes alter our reality.

Carl Jung was the one who introduced the word “complex” to psychology; for him, complexes are the “building blocks of personality.”He affirms that the complexes are the living units of the unconscious psyche, whose existence and nature we can only recognize thanks to them.He also says: “if there were no complexes, the unconscious would be nothing more than a residue of dying ideas.”

Complexes alter our reality; they take away our freedom, making us slaves to our thoughts that become somewhat obsessive, just like our actions. Making them aware in order to understand them is a difficult task; breaking or reframe these self-destructive thought patterns takes time and dedication. You can’t always stop them from triggering, but you can learn to spend less time on them so that they don’t control our lives. People who have a complex usually feel insecure and inferior to others. They tend to be tormented, bitter, and uncomfortable, and they reject the natural changes of life. In addition, they often have self-esteem problems. It is worth mentioning that not all complexes are overcome in the same way. That’s why professional support is necessary.

Usually, behind a complex lies an unfulfilled expectation. When we imagine a perfect life with everything we want to be and have, we tend to cling to that expectation, and if something doesn’t go according to our plan, we suffer. Society wants us to be perfect, with the best bodies, lots of money, and material things, pretending to live a life of happiness. They have taught us a life expectancy that is impossible to achieve, filling us only with frustrations and, of course, complexes.

Recognize and accept your complexes

We will live a life of anguish if we do not overcome our inferiority complexes caused by fear and low self-esteem.We will have a half-life if we do not become strong and save ourselves if we do not decide to break the chains that the complexes have imposed on us. We will be graceless survivors, overshadowed by unresolved pain. Knowing that each of us is unique and incomparable to anyone else.

Stop feeding that insatiable ego; don’t see yourself as someone inferior or superior; get away from other people’s eyes and find your own. Forget everything they didn’t give you when you needed it, and don’t compare yourself to others. The human being tends to live a fictional life because he is not able to silence his mind.

If our childhood has marked us, remember that we always have a choice and a chance at life. Humans always have the capacity to recover. Face those monsters once and for all. Take the reins and responsibility for your life. Stop blaming the circumstances, your parents, or society. You are no longer a child. Now, if you can.

The first step to being able to overcome a complex is knowing how to recognize and accept it. Value yourself for who you are and not for what others say; don’t seek anyone’s approval; always act under your own convictions and criteria rather than what others want. Learn to love and accept yourself as you are, with your virtues and defects.  Recognize your own limitations; look for all the positive that already exists in you and reinforce it. Self-esteem is reinforced with positive thoughts and attitudes. Everything always has a positive side. We must avoid making things negative based on our defects.

Accepting our complexes and learning to live with them is the best way to overcome them. We all deserve to live in freedom, to be happy and authentic, and above all, to live our own reality, not the one that others mark us with.

You can search throughout the universe for someone who is worthy of your love and affection, but that person is not found anywhere. That person is yourself.

 

 

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