All human beings have a common goal that is not up for discussion: to be happy on this physical plane. Tibetan Buddhism ensures that you can only be happy if you have inner peace.

In the western world, there is the idea that happiness is something outside of us. However, in the eastern world, specifically the Buddhists, they assure us that happiness is in inner peace, and in order to achieve it, you have to free yourself from those “poisons” of life, which are those feelings and situations that harm the human being, such as hatred, anguish, pride, egoism, and nonconformity.

5 rules of well-being according to Tibetan Buddhism

For this reason, the Buddhists created five rules of well-being that have to do with knowing how to accept, love, and give and thus being able to expel those five poisons from life that, while they are in us, as well as the poison, intoxicate us. If we manage to get away from that, we will have a much freer and much happier life.

Free the heart from hate.

Hate is one of the most harmful feelings that a human being can have in his heart. It is made up of anger, rejection, resentment, to name a few. This poison devours the human soul, invasively affecting the way of seeing life. Hate simply does not let you live, so it is necessary to expel hate from the heart.

One way to achieve this is by developing empathy, learning to put yourself in another’s place and feel how the other person feels, being compassionate, and understanding the other’s shortcomings and limitations. Practicing empathy will help us forgive more easily.

Clear your mind of all worries.

Worry anticipates the future, causing anxiety in us. If we live thinking about the future, we will never be in the here and now because we have the expectation that something will happen that causes us pain and we want to control it when it does not even exist.

Nowadays, it is “normal” to be worried about what may come in the future, but if you think about it well, the future does not really exist.

The present is all we have. Instead of thinking about what could happen and torturing us, the best thing is to dedicate ourselves to what we are living here and now, as Buddha used to say: Don’t dwell on the past, don’t dream about the future, focus your mind on the present.

Release the spirit of pride.

Pride has to do with the false belief that one can do everything well without making mistakes, feeling superior to others, and being more likely to criticize any error that is made.

Pride makes us vulnerable, feeling cheated and dominated by flattery or humiliated by criticism. Humility is the key to overcoming arrogance and understanding that not all of life is enough for us to learn everything we would like, but we can always continue to grow according to the decisions we think are fair without worrying about our image or what they will say.

Dedicate ourselves to learning without wanting to surpass anyone but ourselves.

Learn to give.

One of the basic rules of well-being for Buddhism is generosity. This virtue is typical of those who trust in themselves and wish that suffering were not in their own life or that of others.

Being a generous person gives incredible personal power because it enriches any environment in which you are, also giving well-being to others. Giving (without the intention of receiving) is a form of personal power, especially when it is given from the heart.

One is strengthened by doing so, managing to expand his being. If we give things that we consider good and valuable, we are practicing greater generosity than if we offer something that we do not appreciate. As a Tibetan saying goes, “if I keep everything for myself, what will I have left to give to others?”

Accept more and expect less.

Learn to accept each of the things that are presented to us. Whatever we do, life will always have bitter moments. However, getting away from them is not the way to achieve happiness; rather, it is part of the problem.

Each person and each situation that comes into our lives brings with them a gift. The problem is that we are not always able to identify it. If instead of rejecting or denying what happens to us, we adopt a learning attitude, we will discover that all moments have great value, even the hardest ones, turning them into a source of growth.

The tranquility of knowing that we cannot control anything but ourselves makes life lighter since sometimes we complicate our existence without any need, and these rules remind us that it is only about living with simplicity, humility, and a good attitude towards ourselves and towards others.

“If you light a lamp for somebody, it will also brighten your path.” – Buddha

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