We suffer when we don’t get what we want or when we can’t keep what we have.
Pain is a part of life.

There are many causes of suffering, whether physical or emotional. When we suffer physical pain, we usually go to a specialist who treats the cause because that is part of life. We also suffer emotional pain when we see someone suffer, for example, and when that emotional pain is directed towards ourselves, the person who really suffers feels that there is no way to free himself from the cause of his suffering. He doesn’t find a way to overcome it. He clings to that fear of not finding a way out. That prolongs that pain, and although the cause of his suffering can be treated, the person gets stuck in that feeling of not being able to do it.

Suffering comes from the interpretations we give to events we live through. Sometimes they can be avoided because, on many occasions, it depends on oneself. When that’s not possible, it’s when it has been imposed by circumstances external to us. Pain is inevitable. Pain, as we have already discussed in previous episodes, is not an obstacle but a path. Pain is a part of life, and when we accept this, we start to see it as a great opportunity to help us grow. It enables us to reach the following level of consciousness that is consistent with our evolutionary process. I can access deeper levels of information from there.

When it is not accepted that pain is part of life, it is when we begin to resist accepting the reality of things. It is when suffering begins to steal our peace, filling us with confusion and stealing our peace.

Suffering is the other face of fear.

People think that soul suffers emotional wounds, but that is a mistake. The one who suffers is always the ego, not the soul. The soul has the essence of divinity coming from that universal consciousness to which we belong. It has no limitations.  The soul is eternal and pure. That is where fullness is found. Therefore, it is not correct to say that the soul suffers. Something that cannot die, that does not exist in the material world, that is not born, that does not die, cannot be destroyed or altered, therefore it does not suffer.

However, suffering strengthens the path that guides us towards the soul because it is just the experience we need to continue expanding our consciousness. When we suffer, there is nothing or no one else around. We do not see beyond ourselves and think that we are the only ones who suffer from certain causes.  Suffering is the other face of fear. A person who always suffers is a person with fear. There are people who suffer for fear of suffering, suffering in advance, such as the fear of the idea of dying in the way of dying or of the unknown.

Deepak Chopra says that one is afraid of death because we are terrified of the unknown. We believe that all this is the only known. Of course, because we are familiar with what we have, with the physical body, with what surrounds us, but we are not familiar with death. I invite you to listen to the mindfulness episode with full attention to death. We must bear in mind that sooner or later we will be touched by pain. If we resist it, we are only going to increase it. With this, we must clarify one thing: accepting the pain does not mean that I am going to resign myself to feeling it.

Causes of suffering.

Buddhism says that pain is born of desire, and if we learn to give up desire, we will end suffering. Suffering is optional. Attachments cause suffering, which leads to an emotional dependence on what you want to possess or keep. Whether you cling to certain things or even people because they make you feel safe and just thinking about losing them causes you to suffer. Control is also a cause of suffering. It causes a lot of pain to want to control situations or people so they can work based on the belief that only then will I feel safe. If you don’t accept things as they are, you will have a lot of anxiety, frustration, and pain. You have to learn to accept the processes because each one has a powerful reason for being.

When you do not accept people as they are and want to change them, you generate a lot of discomforts. Each person is different and free to make their own decisions. Nobody knows more than the others, and nobody is better than the others. Each one lives according to his level of consciousness, according to what he has to learn.

Another cause of suffering is not living here and now. Living in the past or creating stories of a future that doesn’t exist, causes a lot of suffering. Things happen because they have to happen like that. That is how the process had to be, and there is nothing to do. We cannot let the mind begin to create stories that are later believed. We have already said it many times: everything happens here and now.

If we continue fighting with reality and don’t accept it, we will remain tied to those chains that cause suffering. Life is constantly changing, so, there is no point in resisting something that is going to change. If you continue resisting, you will lose all what life tries to give you, all those messages you need to grow. You can learn a priceless lesson that will transform your life if you put all of your effort into figuring out what that message is. will change your life.

The key is self-knowledge.

We must always keep in mind that the mental reaction we have to any situation that causes us suffering is a survival instinct; it is resisting what it perceives as a threat, what we refuse to accept. The keys to not generating harmful emotions are self-knowledge and self-love. Self-love is more than just working on your physical appearance and liking yourself physically, which is not in conflict with raising your self-esteem and is also beneficial, but there must be a balance in your mental health.

Self-love is essential to avoid paying attention to the outside. Looking inward and working from there, all these causes that generate suffering will help us to have a full life because when one begins to know oneself, the whole environment is transformed.

The root of suffering is attachment – Buddha

 

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