The reality that is not accepted is because it is not understood.
We believe that things are eternal.

We know that our thoughts condition our mental health, and therefore, they create our reality. Human thought enables us to physically influence all matter; thought shapes our perception of the world. We live believing that the complicated or painful situation we are in is our only reality and that we have no control or power to change it. We are unsure that there are multiple choices and possibilities for creating our own reality. However, for this to happen, one needs to have control over one’s life and the responsibility to choose, with the desire to be free in mind and within us.

We think that things are permanent and makes us cling to them. We only suffer because everything is impermanent. If we develop the perception that everything is permanent, then the time will come when we face the reality that it is not.

We don’t want things to change because of the way they now provide us with security. This situation only causes us to have thoughts that do not correspond to the reality of the moment, which is detrimental to our emotional state. “What you deny submits you; what you accept transforms you,” Carl Jung said. Why do we find it so difficult to accept reality?

Process of tolerance and acceptance.

We have the mistaken belief that acceptance implies resignation, abandonment, or resignation; however, acceptance is synonymous with strength; it provides us with the flexibility and capacity to adapt to this new reality over which we have no control. You can improve your emotional well-being if you choose to adapt to adversity rather than complain when reality does not meet your expectations. Accepting reality teaches us about it, allowing us to discover the resources we already have within us to improve and transform ourselves, becoming more resilient in the process.

We accept life with all of its pleasant and unpleasant circumstances without attempting to control or change anything; it is a process of tolerance and acceptance because acceptance allows us to overcome all types of situations letting us successfully continue our evolutionary process. All that we think about ourselves and our experiences is what creates our anxiety and depression, not the situation itself.

The mind creates stories that don’t exist in reality. We have come to base our decisions on those histories, believing that having a full life should always be full of happiness, feeling happy without any discomfort. But when that is not the case, we become frustrated and sad because we do not want to accept a life filled with discomfort and pain. If we never experience pain and discomfort, we will never know what happiness, joy, and fullness are.

If we don’t accept the pain’s reality, this will turn into suffering. Suffering is yet another way that fear manifests itself and prevents us from progressing.

How can I accept my reality?

The first step is to change our thoughts and learn to transform irrational thoughts into rational ones. A person who is capable of changing their thoughts can have great control over their emotions. Some situations are beyond our control. We must seek acceptance of the circumstances, whatever they may be, and align our thoughts and actions to achieve acceptance. Accept the responsibility that corresponds to us, and, if necessary, seek the assistance of a professional to walk this path.

Accepting a situation or circumstance that cannot be changed does not indicate accepting discomfort forever. We can always do something to gain self-control and accept responsibility for our mental state so that we can gradually adapt to reality without succumbing to apathy or resignation.

Acceptance is a process; take your time.

Accepting reality doesn’t mean tolerance. Tolerance entails accepting a negative judgment based on a circumstance. Putting up with an unpleasant situation can lead to a deep sense of dissatisfaction which eventually lead to an impulsive explosion. Accepting others is not the same as tolerating them; we all have different points of view and see the world differently. Empathy helps us understand how the other works and accept that their way of thinking is valid and respected.

The circumstances or situations we face do not cause emotional or behavioral problems, but the way we interpret them—everything depends on how we see things, not how they really are. Acceptance is a process; take your time and be patient. Don’t try to combat the unpleasant situation; instead, focus on the things you can do to feel better and on what is in your hands.

 Whoever lives on illusions will die on reality. 

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